"Forgive and forget" is standard advice, but therapist Rachel Sims argues that it can be damaging. In "The Forgiveness Myth," Sims challenges the societal and religious pressure to forgive abusers, toxic parents, or betraying partners. She posits that "forced forgiveness" bypasses the necessary stages of anger and grief, leading to suppressed trauma. Sims introduces the concept of "Acceptance without Forgiveness." You can accept that something happened and move on with your life without absolving the perpetrator or restoring the relationship. The book validates the feelings of victims who are told their healing is incomplete because they still feel anger. "The Forgiveness Myth" distinguishes between reconciliation (a two-way street requiring change) and internal peace (a solo job). It empowers readers to set boundaries and prioritize their own safety over the comfort of those who hurt them. A liberating guide for anyone who isn't ready—or willing—to forgive.